Sex Wonks Podcast Episode 40: Deep Throat Dahling

Do you deep throat? The Wonks do and this week they celebrate all that’s about going Linda Lovelace on it. First up, the Wonks pay their respect to one of the two porn stars who made ‘deep throat’ a household word—Mr. Harry Reems. While he was neither Johnny the Wadd nor a sonic hedgehog, Mr. Reems, in his own way, left an indelible mark in the annals of porn history.

Believe it or not, sex can kill. From New York, a disturbing story of bacterial meningitis that appears to be spreading through sexual encounters between men. The outbreak has sickened 22 and killed seven. According to Dr. Thomas Farley, the best defense is to get vaccinated. And it’s not only meningitis that can prove to be sexually fatal; Rosa discovers an article on christwire.org claiming that oral sex is a deadly sin—literally. Tell us it’s not true!

According to Tennessee state senator, Stacey Campfield, “Perversity does not make diversity just because it’s at the university,” and as a result the fundies in the Tennessee state legislature have pressured the administrators of UT to cut funding for the planned Sex Week scheduled for the first week in April. Sex Week has become a tradition at many universities, including the Ivy League’s Yale, Harvard and Brown. But better get your Sex Week while you can kids, as it appears they may be on their way out. Yale this year held a shortened version of theirs – a Sex Weekend – perhaps due to bad publicity.

A vocal coach in Canada has discovered a new kind of deep throat. He’s using sex toys to assist his student in increasing their vocal power. University of Alberta drama professor David Ley uses hand-held vibrators to massage the throats of students. “What I’m trying to do is to help the person hit that high note or harness their emotional energy,” he told the Toronto Star. This gives new meaning to ‘rubbing one out’ – does it not?

Live by the tweet, die by the tweet? Adria Richards had no idea the firestorm she would create when she tweeted about the inappropriate behavior of fellow attendees of a tech conference. Ms. Richards received threats of violence and was fired after posting an image of male programmers she accused of making inappropriate innuendos at the conference they were attending. Her experience begs the question: When is too much far too much? And how far does one want to take it to make a point?


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Sex Wonks Podcast Episode 38: What Not to Do

Dude! Rosa needs to slow her roll. ‘Cause dude! She’s met a dude (on-line anyway) and she’s afraid that she may be moving a little too fast. Duuude! She needs to check herself.

And in a new segment that the Wonks hope to make a regular feature—Drunken Sexting Theatre—Ed and Rosa reenact their own version of texts from last night. Can they keep it together long enough to get through their reading without cracking each other up? But is this sexting real or just a playful fantasy being shared between friends?

In a classic example of what not to do, Ed found a recent article in the on-line version The Daily Mirror about a photographer who was killed as part of a blind date that included “sex games”. The article states, “Detectives called to the address found various items in the living room which suggested sexual activity had taken place.” in what was called a “life style” incident. We wanna know what those items were!

It looks like the TSA is getting kinky as well. According to an article in the on-line New York Post the TSA guys are hard on sex toys—and not in a good way. Several TSA agents have left creepy notes after searching bags and finding sex toys. However, the TSA acknowledges that there’s nothing illegal about traveling with the devices (well, thank goodness for that!).

And in another story from across the pond, Ed and Rosa have found a story of what not to do when you’re cougar on the hunt. In a story published in the on-line version of The Sun, Adam Cope, 20, claimed he was seduced by Helen Hart, 44, and the expensive gifts she lavished upon him. Ms. Hart told him she was an heiress to a £48 million fortune. Long story short, Helen was not only a cougar, but she was fraud! She was cooking the books of her former employer to keep her boy toy in bling. Helen was caught, arrested and given five years for her crime. Traumatized by the incident, Adam turned over all gifts to the police and flew to Australia, where he has been working in a copper mine. He’s stated: “Now I want to forget that I ever met Helen.”


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Sex Wonks Podcast Episode 26: Slickory

Despite being a wee bit under the weather and at the risk of hacking up a lung, Rosa powers through a killer cold to record this week. First up, Ed and Rosa discuss a new genre of porn (as well as massage technique from Japan) that Ed discovered recently while surfing the interwebs—Nuru.

As Ed wandered further into wilds of the interwebs, he discovered a new depth to his obsession with sex toys. Ed has decided he wants to begin actually making them. Can you give a guy a hand? Or maybe, instead, watch him take care of it himself in another new genre of erotic film that Ed has – ahem – come across.

The Wonks serve up the last of the basic sexual rights as drafted by The Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality: right number ten, which is the right to control conception. While the message from the perpetrators of the culture wars may be to the contrary, a recent survey shows that 63% of American adults say businesses should be required to provide their employees with free contraception and birth control as part of their health plans. What is the cost of limiting the access to conception prevention? The Wonks discuss the human costs associated with preventing sexually active women from obtaining contraception. The Wonks close with their continued plea for feedback. Call us!

Relevant Links
Nuru Massage
TC Diletti
Gentleman Handling
Most Americans support contraception insurance coverage for all
Texas Freedom Network Rallies Clergy In Favor Of Contraception
Couple Refused Emergency Contraception Because of Pharmacist’s Personal Beliefs
Woman’s death prompts abortion debate in Ireland


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Sex Wonks Podcast Episode 19: Rosa’s Got a New Toy

This week Rosa finds herself with a sweet package delivered all up in her podcasting studio. No, not that kind of package—but a big old box of goodies from her podcasting BFF, Ed C. Wood. In addition to a brand new microphone, Rosa found a very special sumthin’, sumthin’ buried deep in her delivered box. Hidden there was a shiny new sex toy, one Pure Wand made by njoy toys. Ms. Sparks shares her initial experience with her curious new novelty. The Wonks then jump back into their discussion of the basic sexual rights outlined by the Institute for Advance Study of Human Sexuality. In this episode, they discuss right number three: the right not to be exposed to sexual material or behavior. Rosa shares a bizarre discovery with a popular social networking web site and sexual material. She and Ed discuss an article in The Harvard Crimson regarding “Sex Signals” –  a sex and sensitivity training program facilitated on the campus of the university for incoming freshman students. And finally, the Wonks rap things up by sharing a few of their own experiences with the unwelcome sexual behavior of others.

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Sex Wonks Podcast Episode 16: More Mr. Green

As promised, we’re getting ever greener (and wetter) here on the podcast with the second half of our interview with Mr. Green. The Wonks open this episode with Rosa getting in touch with her inner dom as she sets Ed straight (so to speak) and they discuss the origin of the terms top and bottom and how they have now seeped into popular culture. In the opening of the second part of the Wonks’ interview with Mr. Green, Rosa inquires about switching. Mr. G reveals his Zen side when the Wonks ask about contracts. Rosa probes further to find out if Mr. Green has more than one sub at any given moment. Mr. Green shares that one of his favorite play spaces is Paddles NYC in Chelsea. The Wonks and Mr. Green then discuss rope and rigging and the fact that both Ed and Mr. Green wish to learn it. Mr. Green offers advice to those interested in exploring BDSM. And of course, what interview about BDSM would be complete without a discussion of 50 Shades of  Grey? In closing, Mr. Green shares about his favorite kind of play and Rosa has a surprising revelation that she’d really like to be spanked – harder than usual.

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Sex Wonks Podcast Episode 15: 50 Shades of Mr. Green

We at the podcast are all about being green. So this week, the Wonks are 50 shades of green—Mr. Green that is. As promised, Ed and Rosa are serving up their interview with Mr. Green (the dom to Ms. Brown Eyes’ sub).

In this first half of the interview, Mr. Green begins by explaining how he was initially introduced to BDSM with a partner who asked him to tie her up. He then elaborates on how he learned more about BDSM alone, mostly through books and magazines and occasionally through the on-line communities of the burgeoning internet. Our dom then tells the Wonks about the gear he typically uses – his favorites being rope, restraints and paddles. Ed inquires about how to use gear such as paddles without leaving bruises or marks.

Mr. Green confesses to Rosa that most of his subs somehow find him – he doesn’t really need to seek them out. Ed asks if the dom has ever experienced any negative reactions from a partner when she discovered his interest. Mr. Green explains to Rosa that his subs are about an even mix between those who are experienced and those who are less so. The Wonks then wrap up the first half of their interview with Mr. Green with a discussion of the concept of sub space and what that means.

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It’s Just Sex?

In the 1995 movie Jeffrey, based on a play of the same name written by Paul Rudnick, the lead character becomes paranoid about sex for fear of becoming infected with HIV while being sexually active during the height of the AIDS epidemic. Shortly after he’s made the decision to swear off sex, he meets a hunky gentleman at the gym who immediately becomes the temptation he needs to re-asses this decision. As he begins to work through the myriad feelings that result from meeting the gentleman to whom he’s intensely attracted, his friend Sterling, over coffee, counsels—”it’s just sex.”

A few weeks ago, when I posted an ad on my favorite haunt for hooks ups, Craigslist, I was looking for a play partner with whom to try out a new toy. There was a curious result: I received no less than three or four responses from guys who confessed to me that a) they were curious to try anal stimulation/penetration and experience the resulting pleasure, but had never done so; and b) that they were new to exploring sex with other men. As is often the case with the responses I get from such posts, there was only one gentleman who actually showed up at my apartment a few days later after exchanging several emails. He called himself J.

As J. initially entered my apartment I could tell that he was extremely nervous. I thought nothing of it, as guys are often nervous. However, after a few moments of idle chit chat I could tell that J. was really struggling as we were standing and talking. Finally, I said to him, “Would you like to sit down on the couch and talk a little more?”

“Yes, that would be nice,” replied J. As we sat down, he stammered, “As I was driving over here I had what I wanted to say worked out in my head. Now, as I’m sitting here, I can’t recall any of it.”

“We can talk about anything you like,” I offered in comfort.

“I’m not much of a talker,” J. chuckled, “and that makes it kind of difficult for me to tell you what I’m thinking.”

“I find it’s as difficult as we make it,” I observed.

“I guess you’re right,” said J.

As we sat talking for about an hour, J. shared with me that he’s married, but he and his wife are separated by two continents – and that he sees several women regularly for both companionship and sex. He explained that the reason he answered my post was because one of his girlfriends had, at one time, massaged his prostate with her finger while performing oral sex on him. And in his words, “It was amazing.” He further explained that he’s always wanted to experience it again, but for whatever reason his girlfriend has never once again ventured into ass play with him.

The longer we sat and talked it became more and  more clear to me that J. was most likely not going to be comfortable with the thought of the two of us having sex. Shortly thereafter, J. confessed that he wasn’t sure he’d be up for having sex upon a first meeting. And though I assured him several times that it wasn’t big deal to me – and that I enjoy meeting people just as much if not more than having sex with them – he kept apologizing and saying, “I’m so sorry to have wasted your time.”

And I kept repeatedly replying, “I don’t at all feel as though you’ve wasted my time.”

After J. left my apartment, and during many moments since, I’ve thought of those three words of Jeffrey’s friend Sterling: It’s just sex.  And when I think about those words, there is this weird kind of dichotomy that occurs in my mind. Part of me thinks he’s right. It’s no big deal. It feels good and it’s fun. To paraphrase Jeffrey, it’s one of the greatest gifts from the universe.

Then there’s the experience I had with J. For him, sex is anything but trivial – particularly the thought of making the leap from having sex exclusively with women to having sex with men. As I sat and talked with him on the evening he visited me, I could tell he was struggling with any number of conflicting feelings. And as I sat and watched and listened to him, I realized that at times sex can also bring about within us so many conflicting feelings and desires. Those conflicts often make it difficult for us to freely enjoy ourselves sexually.

“It’s just sex,” dear Sterling?

I think not.

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Sex Wonks Podcast Episode 12: Talk Dirty to Me

This week the wonks get down and dirty. They pose the questions, “Do you like the dirty talk? If so, how dirty do you like it?” But before the dirt, Ed shares an unfortunate close encounter between a newly purchased sex toy and his bed frame. Next up, Rosa explains that while she doesn’t enjoy the contrived carnal utterings found in pornography, she does like to occasionally express her enthusiasm when a lover hits just the right spot. Ed then shares a few experiences of his own with randy word play – one about a former boyfriend who not only liked to talk dirty, but loud as well; and the other of a curious random dirty talk experience with a recent hook up. After the filthy talk, Rosa and Ed take a trip south of the border to explore the world of “nether dos.” The Wonks ponder which style is best: the natural, the Brazilian or bald as an eagle? And finally, the Wonks have discovered the latest temptation to the male youth of the nation… Va-Jazzling!

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Sex Wonks Podcast Episode 11: A Little Deeper Darling

This week the Wonks go a little deeper. Deeper into the subject of BDSM. But before they delve into the world of pleasure and pain, Rosa opens the show with a confession and shares some disturbing news she’s uncovered about the clap. A frightening new super-strain of the bug has been discovered and is beginning to spread worldwide. Rosa and Ed then do a post wrap-up of their interview with Brown Eyes. The Wonks discuss the difference between hard and soft limits as well as R.A.C.K. Ed and Rosa then speculate on the various types of the punishment gear described by Brown Eyes during her interview. Ed shares a few websites to purchase such gear and shares a recent sex toy order. The Wonks discuss breath play and offer a word of warning. Rosa shares the memory of a B&D scene with a former lover that went somewhat awry. The Wonks then wrap it up by discussing prior care and aftercare and its importance.

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